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I Thee Wed Place
Where to begin?
A lot of couples do not know where to
begin to plan their wedding when they get engaged.
I would love to help you any way that I can. Here are
some general guidelines that should help.
One of the
first things you should decide on is the location and
the date and time.
You need to make sure you can
book the location, the reception and the
officiant on a
datethat is convenient for those that you want to be
in
and at your ceremony as well as convenient for the
officiant also.
"Get
It In Writing"
Almost every reputable
vendor in the wedding "industry" uses a contract for their services:
banquet
halls and reception sites, photographers, DJ's, limousine services, etc. If you
don't have a
contract with them, you have no recourse if they don't provide
exactly the services you
thought you were paying for. Make sure you also get a
commitment in writing from the person
who will perform your wedding.
Unfortunately, that includes churches, too. "Trust me" isn't good enough.
I
always use a contract with each couple, specifying place, date and time.
The Importance of a "Wedding Script"
I don't know any Bride who
would go to a wedding dress shop, give them a check,
tell them to "pick out a
nice dress" for her, and deliver it on her wedding day at a certain
place and
time. And I don't know any Groom who would go to a jeweler, give them a check,
tell them to "pick out a couple of nice rings" for them, and deliver them on the
wedding day.
However, that is what 99% of the couples who get married do in one
crucial aspect of their
wedding: they tell the wedding officiant to in effect
"say something nice" at their wedding ceremony.
They have very little "warning"
in advance as to what will actually be said at their ceremony,
other than maybe
the vows and ring exchange.
I have heard quite a few
stories about things that have been said at weddings by other wedding
officiants
that the couple did not want said. Maybe you've heard some odd things yourself
at a friend's wedding. Your wedding ceremony should say all the right things,
the way you
want them said, and nothing else. The only way to ensure this is to
have the
officiant provide you a written transcript of the planned ceremony in
advance of your wedding.
(You may consider writing up the ceremony yourself, but
it's a lot of work, and not easy to do!)
No two weddings are exactly the same. Yours can and
should be a "perfect" wedding ceremony,
which says the things you want in a
beautiful and meaningful way.
Getting the Most out of This Web Site
In using this web site, I
recommend that you visit each page and link.
Be sure to read the "FAQ
- Frequently Asked Questions" page. Feel free to send me any
suggestions by email. This
site is the result of the input of many couples like yourselves who
wanted help
in planning a "perfect" wedding day. I hope yours will be "perfect" too. Please
call
me or send me an email so we can meet to discuss your wedding.
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Planning |
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Rev. Abner |
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Please
contact I Thee Wed Place minister officiant:
Rev. Colinda K. Abner
(866) 709-0817
Click here
to ask about Rev. Abners' availability
to perform your wedding, or to send her a
message.
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